Archive for May, 2010

So while coming home yesterday from work I got forwarded this video from someone who wanted me to speak on the subject. It’s grainy and cocked sideways but peep the action below.

For those who don’t know: The woman in the video is Rap Groupie Kat Stacks who has a become the Internet Sensation as she tells tales about her sexual encounters with Rappers such as Bow Wow and Nelly (Both whom haven’t had a hit since Bush 43′s first term) I would give links to her site but it has been brought down. You can review the whole time line of what has been going on here.

Putting hands on a woman is wrong. Period. Putting your hands on a woman to protect the reputation of a fading Rap Star is not only stupid it shows the level of your intelligence. And to those would were just standing around there filming this shit while the girl was being slapped, shows how lost some of us really are.

Look I don’t agree with the things that Kat Stacks has done. However on the things that are “wronger” beating down a chick at a bar and asking her to apologize is some straight pimp shit that needs to go the way of the dodo.

And for folk saying that she deserved it … how is that any different for blaming a woman who’s raped for dressing too sexy?

Again … pointing out that I don’t agree with what Kat Stacks has done but that doesn’t mean she deserves to get her clocked cleaned by dudes who at this point are glorified weed carriers for Bow Wow.

I’m hoping that with this video, She’s able to press charges and get this fuckers locked up!

*SMDH*

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ESPN’s E:60 Ran a piece about members of Woman’s Soccer Team in South Africa That Was rapped by men in order to “correct” them of their Lesbian Tendencies and “teach” them how to be a woman.

*Blank Stare*

For those who don’t know what this is all about, let me give you the definition of “Corrective Rape”:

“Corrective rape” is a criminal practice, whereby men rape lesbian women, purportedly as a means of “curing” the woman of her sexual orientation.

The term “corrective rape” was first used in the early 2000s by human rights non-governmental organizations to describe rapes committed against South African lesbians. A notable attack of this kind came in 2008 when Eudy Simelane, a member of the South Africa women’s national football team and a vocal LGBT-rights activist in South Africa, was gang raped and murdered in KwaThema, Gauteng.

A November 2008 report by the NGO ActionAid and the South African Human Rights Commission called for the creation of legislation to specifically target hate crimes, including corrective rape.

Now that I’ve brought you up to speed here’s the video that sparked my interest in this subject and the reason I’m posting today.

Hearing things like this saddens me because its always placed hand in hand with with being a man. It always go with the ugliness of misogyny and Male Privilege. Just because you have a dick doesn’t mean you get to make the rules. I am tired of men seemingly trying to correct other people for their own shortcomings.

Women are not something that needs to be corrected so that you can feel comfortable about your own sexuality.

As a close friend of mine said in reaction to this story was:

Let’s not act like this is limited to South Africa. There have been a number of reports of lesbians being raped and/or killed simply because they are lesbians. I have personally witnessed men react quite demonstrably to women admitting and embracing their lesbianism. Hell, some even take offense and “disapprove” of bisexual women. Another form, considered to be benign but really isn’t, is men saying, “Oh, you just need the right dick. You get some good dick, you won’t be a lesbian anymore.” Oh, lemme guess…you’re JUST the man to give me this so-called “good” dick. So, yes, the rates may be higher in South Africa but please, please, PLEASE let’s not act like this is just one of those “crazy African” things. Corrective rape happens here too. We just don’t call it that.

I’m going to need for men, All Men, to do better. Much Much Better!

Tell me what you thing Fam! Do these jokers need to be strung up? And why do people still continue to think that the only thing to “cure” a Lesbian is some Good Dick?

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So one day I was on Twitter with fellow Blogger BlasianBytch (follow her On Twitter) and we were having a discussion about sex and the things people do to screw it up.

She had mentioned that she had knew a man that actually took to what he saw in porn as real and spat on her vagina.

*I’ll let that marinate for a moment*

Needless to say my fellow blogger didn’t get off. I feel for her as its happened to one of us on more than one occasion. All folk want to do is get a nut off or two and someone has to fuck it up by doing something completely stupid at that moment.

It got me to thinking: Has their been anything that someone has done that has been a “Vag Dryer” or “Dick Shrinker”? What will put you out of the mood quicker than quick?

My Mood Killers:

1) Slurping While Giving Head: I don’t mind a moan or two but downright slurping like your eating soup on a cold day will break my concentration.
2) Bad Dirty Talk: Any time you feel the need to start imitating Jazmine Cashmere but you don’t have the chops to do it, do us all a favor and just stop. I like a good dirty talker, but some of ya’ll need to leave the to the professionals like Jaz or Monet Devine.
3) Using My Dick As A Teething Ring: The right type of lips and tongue – Great. Using Molars and In-Scissors to gnaw on my junk like a dog does a chew toy – Not The Business

The Floor is Open Fam: What Are Your Sexual Pet Peeves? Post Your Comments Below.

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I have a post topic for you Sir. Lately bedroom time with my man has been kinda boring. It could be that we have been on and off for MANY years and everything is just blah. I’m more of a “romantic” type person and he is more of a “lets get naked why do we need all that extra stuff” kinda person. How do I get the idea that sex has become boring with him across without scarring his Ego. I don’t want to make him feel bad. I just want to equally be happy in the bed. Suggestions?

Well this was an interesting question brought up by one of my blogger sisters and it is a very good one. I run into this a lot while hanging out with friends. What do you do when your needs are not being met? Why are folks needs are not being met in the first place?

In a word “Communication.”

A lot of people lack communication when it comes to topics that cut too close to home. I don’t know how many times I can hear from the local Teabagger wants to remove your sexual freedoms but ask that same person what they do in the bedroom and its *crickets*

But enough about my feelings on the world at large, I need to answer the question.

My friend, I think you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. There is no reason in a sexual relationship that one person gets all of the perks and you seem to be left out. Sex is a two person event no matter what porn and relationships magazines say.

First: Sit him down for a face to face meeting. I don’t care if it’s at the mall food court or over dinner at the most expensive restaurant you need to look directly into his eyes and gauge his reaction to what you want to tell him. Many times people have these conversations in bed or in front of the TV and the topic is missed or misconstrued.

Second: Tell him that’s its not about him or the lack of his services … but how you want to enjoy more of him in different venues. You don’t each the same meal all the time, why should have the same sex all the time. Variety is the spice of life. Men should be pretty simple you give them directions on how ya’ll can have better sex and I assure you they will jump through hoops to make it happen.

Third: If the first two don’t work, you’ll need to take matters into your own hands. Make the night a theme night which you take control of the situation. Give him an invitation of a night of pleasure or work around sexual favors around a simple task – Strip Playstation, anyone? (My ex and I used to play strip Monopoly and it would always lead to some mind blowing sex)

Any man worth his salt would appreciate the fact that you are even thinking about improving and upgrading your sex. Any man that doesn’t should be kicked to the curb because you shouldn’t have to work this hard for something you both should be enjoying.

I really hopes that helps … anything else just let me know.

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So the FSC has come out with an All-Star PSA to keep you from Torrent Sites as Well as Tube Sites. Like any multi-media sites they are losing money as viewer are posting on many of the torrent and tube sites that post Porn at lenght.

I’m not going to get on my soapbox and have another debate about why I really think porn is losing money. So I’ll just ask you to Enjoy the PSA and post your comments in the box below

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I'm Sure They Didn't Even Know They Were Being Flimed

Porn has spoofed many things! From Star Trek to The Big Bang Theory. Now Porn makers want to tap into that hidden money from Comic Book Geeks/Porn Fans that want to see two great things that go great together (?) Vivid Video has announced that they will be releasing Batman XXX: A Porn Parody (see Trailer Below)

This movie according to Vivid will be part of their Vivid-Superhero Imprint that will crank out Adult movies featuring Superman, Wonder Woman, Spider Man and many others.

I like comics and I like porn but I’m not sure that I can even see myself watching these types of movies. I don’t mind a Mash-Up but knowing how notorious Porn Makers are for messing up a good thing, I’m not sure if its worth the brain bleach it would take to get the bad images out of my mind.

I know the economy demands that businesses grown in different areas but I’m dumbfounded at the fact that Porn Companies haven’t thought about … oh I don’t know making some quality porn.

Submitting to gimmicks does nothing by drive fans even further away. Of course that’s my opinion …

Tell me what you think: Am I off my rocker or is there something wonderful seeing Comic Book Heroes getting their freak on? And if you had the Chance, What Comic Book Would You Spoof In Porn?

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