Archive for September, 2009

Again one of the wonderful things about Twitter is the conversations that you have with other folk. While trying to come up with a topic for today I was asked the question: “What would be your perfect Porn Star?”

Unfortunately my perfect Porn Star is not just one woman but a combination of several women I have come across while watching porn.

First off in order for her to be a perfect Porn Star she has have Marketability. Be it via her website or other outside ventures, she has to be able to generate buzz and dollars even if the market can’t. No one does this better than Jenna Jameson.

Although I’m not a fan, I do marvel at the woman’s hustle. She started as a stripper in 1993 and managed to work her way as CEO of her own adult entertainment company ClubJenna which boasts $30 Million a Year in revenue. She is instantly recognizable in and outside the world of porn. Her stripper past in considered an afterthought as she has become a pop culture Icon. She has starred in a vast array of non-pornographic efforts from the NBC drama Mister Sterling in 2003 to 2008 Horror-Comedy Zombie Strippers.

I think that both Jayla Starr and Pinky have the ability to reach this plateau as both have very strong internet presence.

Now in order to be able to have that Marketability you need to have that certain Cross-Over Appeal. Yes Jenna carries herself well to several venues but in my opinion she can’t hold a candle to the Great Vanessa Del-Rio who not only has starred in over 100 films since her appearance in the adult industry in 1974.

What Porn Star can claim a vast career, be mentioned in Rap songs by Ice Cube, Lil Kim, Digital Underground, Chubb Rock, Busta Rhymes and The Game and have an appearance on NYPD Blue?

And let us not forget her cameo in “Get Money” by Junior M.A.F.I.A. (The fun starts at 2:46)

Watch her discuss her impact and a book (Fifty Years of Slightly Slutty Behavior) that is in the works in the video below:

Now that we have covered the outside influences that is needed to take the Porn Star to the superstar level, you need to include physical aspects to porn acting. First up: Perfect Dick Sucking

You need to work the dick like you are sucking it like “it had the the antidote in it!” In my humble opinion, no one sucks dick on camera like Ice La Fox. I have never seen anyone pay attention to the oral like Ice when she was on camera. The only one that comes close is a retired porn actress Mary Jane.

They both pay loving attention to the shaft and head of the dick while using their lips to manage both. Ice looks as if she completely loves the act as oral and it transmits perfectly from the screen.

Next Up, the perfect Porn Star needs to have a Good Sex Game. I can’t stress the importance of this as I have watched many of a bad actor that was carried by a good actress that made the scene better than it really was. Jazmine Cashmere is a good example of this. I haven’t seen her put out a bad scene just because the actor she was working with was just bad.

I don’t know about you, but I love for my actresses can talk a good game while getting down. You have to have a good Vocal Component in order convey the sexual heat of needed in the scene. When it works good you have blazing scenes produced by actresses such as Mone Devine, Jazmine Cashmere and Ice La Fox. Conversely there are several Male Performers who don’t know how to do this well and screw up the scene with lines that come “straight out of a comic book.” (Points for anyone who knows where that quote comes from) A side eye to LT and Wetley Pipes who have ruined many of scenes for me.

I’m sure you’re noticing that I left Looks. It was on purpose. Although I do think that looks are slightly important if you don’t have the other components you are not going to make it as a porn star. I’ve known fine women would completely screw up a scene because they were worrying about being too pretty and not committing themselves to the scene.

So readers am I off the bend on this one. Who is your Perfect Porn Star?

Well that’s all for now … back to the reality of the world. More later

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Time for a Debbie Downer moment. I’m on the internet daily and my internet usage has gotten me exposure to many people who have stories to tell. My fellow Blogger, ElegantIgnance Tweeted the sad story of Sara Kruzan.

Sara was a beautiful 11 year old girl who was being ignored by her Drug Addicted mother came under the attention to a 31 year old man known to Sara as G.G. Peep her story in the video below.

For those who don’t have the time to watch the whole video, let me sum it up. Sara was sentence to Life in Prison because she killed her pimp. A Pimp she met when she was 11 and the dude was 31 years old at the time. Two years later she was being raped and forced into prostitution at 13.

I’ll let that sink in for a minute.

She was sentenced to life in prison for killing the man raping her for THREE YEARS and forcing her to walk the stroll in those same years.

You would think that someone would take pity on her. I mean how many people reached out to Jaycee Dugard when they found out what deplorable living conditions she had to live in for years with her captor.

That wasn’t the case … at one point the judge overseeing her case said that she lacked moral scruples.

Again I’ll give you a moment to digest that.

So let me get this straight a man has sex with a 13 year old, and forces her into prostitution for THREE YEARS in which she is continuously abused, but yet she lacks Moral Scruples because she kills the monster hurting her.

WTF?!?!? (And please know that does not mean Why The Face)

This follows what I have recently starting saying about those in the Adult Entertainment business and/or Sex Workers: Why does someone’s career track instantly mark them as deserving what they get?

Why is it okay for people to show compassion to Jaycee Dugard but not Sara Kruzan?

Is it because SEX is involved with the second case and not the first. Sara was rapped repeatedly and abused just as bad as Jaycee but all of a sudden you put Prostitution into the mix then she’s immediately a person that lacks Moral Scruples.

So if Jaycee would have killed her Rapist/Captor would she be sitting in a jail cell or would she be let off because of mental duress?

Of course not … let’s not lie to each other and say that she would not be released and people would leaping over themselves trying to give her a great big hug.

Which leads me to my second musing of this post: I noticed that a lot of people who enjoy the fruits of sexuality frequently shame those who participate in it.

A friend of my calls this Slut Shaming and it basically means that certain people take pride in damning those who participate in Sexual Careers. From strippers, to Porn Performers to Sex Workers, they are frequently called every name known to man and shunned by the masses.

I was confronted with this when saw the question asked on a Message Board: “Could you Marry a Porn Star?”

The negative responses were good and plenty:

I could not date them … it would be like dating a whore.

No way. That person obviously has no morals and probably has so many STDs.

I think porn stars are better off only marrying other porn stars, or other people in the industry.

Oh. well, I would definately(sp) do her but marriage . . nah.

I’m not sure how extensively INGSOC has mutated the word MARRIAGE in NEWSPEAK, but… strictly speaking… you CAN’T MARRY a porn star -except, perhaps, an EX or REFORMED one. Cohabitating with someone who mounts whomever he or she is paid to -is not a marriage.

Look how those comments are compared with what they said about Sex Workers who basically are doing the same thing as Porn Stars but for less money.

They got what they deserved.

They were trash.

They asked for it.

What do they expect?

The world is better off without those whores.

Did I mention that those comments were from people who were asked about missing Prostitutes that were attacked by the Green River Killer?

It seems that some people automatically assume that if you decide to do porn you automatically give up any rights to a normal life? Okay I’m not being Pollyanna on the subject as I run into a lot of Porn Stars who are doing normal things as you or I would do on daily basis. They shop, They Clean, They Take care of their families … just like normal people.

Are Porn Stars and Sex Workers not allowed to experience love and what counts as a normal life for all that its worth?

We all know that people look down on folk who do porn but now I’ve discovered that their is even a pecking order within the Adult Industry:

Video Models
Look Down At
Strippers
Who Look Down At
Porn Stars
Who Look Down At
Prostitutes

Shocked? I was too before I found out that Tyra Banks Did a Whole show on it.

Really Tyra? With all of the avenues that Women of Color have to divide themselves, we are now looking at what level of the Adult Entertainment Tree that they are currently at?

This is nothing but an attempt by those that want to shun those in the Sex Industry to classify and further shame those in the industry as a whole.

By no means is Mr. BlackSexxx condoning the bad shit that goes on in the industry. But the women that choose this type of life shouldn’t be classified as being sluts, whores and hoes like the majority of the public (and the people that funnel money to them) as being.

I know it seems like I do post after post about what’s wrong with P.O.C. when it comes to sexual politics but these topics always seem to come my way. The Sara Kruzan story needs to be told and we need to change our thinking about Shaming folk who decide to take up work in the Sex/Adult Entertainment Trade.

Please leave comments in the box below. As always you can leave comments anonymously or contact me directly at my email address.

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Seems like I have to clear some things up.

When I wrote my post about would I let my daughter do porn, it seemed a bit sexist to some of my readers. Please note that when I wrote the original post it was based on a question that was posed to me by a close friend. I wanted to answer that as if I was a parent who had an actual daughter thinking about going in that direction.

I did not want anyone think that I would not due diligence for a son who was thinking about becoming a pornography actor. However as much as we want to think that boys need equal protection … sadly in the world of Porn, my son would probably have a better career path than my daughter would in the current porn climate.

That doesn’t mean that men aren’t used and abused just like the women in various porn productions. As they a frequently used a objects within a scene you rarely see men as more than instruments to move the scene or they are to reinforce a stereotype to sell more DVDs/Videos. For P.O.C., if forces them to make the decision to either being degraded and go without work.

And even if males get work, its usually at a lower pay scale than the women in the scene that they are with. (Unless they do Gay scenes)

I would tell my son that he’s going to be lumped in with Sleazy Performer’s and Producers. Its not going to affect his professional life but his private life as well. Yes some of his male friends will be enamored with the life that he lives but try finding a woman outside the industry that will sympathize with his line of work.

I would tell him all of this and tell him the same thing I would tell my daughter: “Do What You Need To!”

And hope and pray he makes the decision that is right for him.

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This question popped up while I was talking to a good friend of mine from Chicago. Seems like with my vast amount of Porn in my home plus the fact that I visit a strip club or two means that Karma says that I’m due for my daughters Jazmine or Niaria to start headlining at Magic City or doing DVDs.

For the record I have no kids. I plan on having some as soon as the universe blesses me with an equally understanding wife who shares some of the kinks that I do (that is another story for another blog WAAAAAY down the line). Be that as it may, I think I can still answer the question without any difficulty.

Of course I realize that this means my daughter of is 18 years of age and has fully graduated from High School. She may have a couple of years of college under her belt and wants to explore non-traditional methods of making money. I can’t fathom the reason but if my “of age” daughter comes to me as says she wants to make Stripping or Porn her way of life I hope that her mother and I will be able to tell her with all of the love in our hearts.

“Do what you need to.”

After saying that I would plan on giving her much information as possible. Hopefully Monica Foster’s site, GettingIntoPorn.com will still be up so she could avoid many of the pitfalls that happen to young women who don’t pay proper attention to their careers.

I would let her know that the images that she puts out there on the internet or on DVD she will never be able to get back. It will be out there for all to see. Not many men will see her as the way that I might-An Intelligent, fully functioning member of society that chose porn/striping as a career route.

No, the majority of men and women will see her as a whole. She will join the ranks of Sex works and other types of Adult Entertainers that looked at the dregs of society. [Slightly Off Topic: I find it surprising that the majority of people who would watch porn and enjoy its efforts on one hand would disrespect those doing the "dirty work" on the other.]

I’m not going to give my daughter the Pollyanna look at the porn industry as end all for easy money, quick money she can earn off the backs of many and the penises of a large majority. Porn in its current form is a rough business.

I’m really hoping that the porn game will have changed as much for the better than it is right now. I’m hoping that there will be places and companies hoping to due quality work, will nurture their actresses and try to attract more women with a softer touch.

I would hope that she would be able to find work with a company that cares about her well-being as a performer and not someone who’s on the assembly line of cocks and pussies they are using to make as much money as possible. If my daughter doesn’t like a scene I would hope that she finds a director who can make her feel comfortable and allay some of her fears. (“You wanna shoot this with a condom … We can do that.” “Don’t want to be called a ‘Nigger Bitch’ and spat on, not a problem!”)

Pollyanna I know. I understand that porn is a business and like with any business, you can expect sometimes you have to play ball. However you should be able to do a job and have your dignity intact.

So I would give all of this information to my daughter, hug her tightly and tell her that I’m still going to be her father no matter what.

To answer the question: Yes, Mr. BlackSexxx would allow his daughter to do porn … and pray at the end of the day she doesn’t come back to me broken than when I let her go.

So tell me readers, am I off my rocker that I would let my daughter (that I don’t even have yet) participate in the porn business? Or am I on to something?

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In an ongoing effort to expand the nature of discussion about P.O.C. Porn, I thought I would open it up to other voices. Today’s discussion comes from one of my readers Alice Sturdivant who is a published author in the field of erotica with works published in such anthologies as Oysters & Chocolate: Erotic Stories of Every Flavor, and Zane’s Succulent: Chocolate Flava II.

With that said I give the floor to Ms. Sturdivant who adroitly gives the reason that P.O.C. erotica shares the same fate as P.O.C. pornography:

I remember the first story I read about sex. It was a romance novel I found in my aunt’s house, tucked in a corner of a bookshelf that otherwise held dusty cookbooks and my cousins’ old school textbooks. The hero was a blond god of a pirate, the heroine a raven-haired, ivory skinned beauty. They had sweet, but hot, sex, outlined in lavender-prosed detail that proved addictive. I was fifteen. It would be three years later before I would read a romance novel with a black hero and heroine; scores of similar books, five years, and an ocean later that I would finally read an erotic novel that contained a woman – or man – that looked like me.

I still have that first (now dogeared) copy of Erotique Noire, and have since read (and written for) erotic anthologies that include characters of color. But they are few and far between, and frankly, I hoard them more than I read and enjoy them, so eager am I to preserve them. The three African-American historical romance novels I have are carefully secreted away in my personal library bookshelf; Beverly Jenkins was a revelation to me. While they were more educational and romantic than erotic, the mere idea of reading love stories that reflected people that looked like me was…astounding.

Not long ago, I asked an author whose work I admire if she saw herself writing a character of color in the future. “I’ve never consciously thought about the question,” she answered. ” Based upon the research I’ve done . . . and the characters I’ve created in the past. . . I would say not in the near-future.”

She writes erotic romance, set in Victorian London. I never wrote her back; what I wanted to tell her was, “People of color have been in Britain since before the 1600s.”

This author certainly isn’t the only one to write white by default; the most diversity one is likely to see in the romance/erotica section is in the jewel-tones of the covers and cleavage-and-bicep-baring blouses of the heroines (and heroes); the limbs intertwined on them as white as the pages within. To be fair, I understand the problem of writing historic fiction with people of color; hell, writing contemporary fiction featuring people of color can sometimes be problematic. Science fiction, fantasy, and even young adult fiction are beleaguered with the same issues. Earlier this year, a frank discussion on characters and readers of color in Science fiction and fantasy took place online. Google Racefail ‘09 for the details; from the moniker, you can imagine how the discussion went. Author Justine Larbalestier found her novel “Liar” had been distributed with a white girl on the cover; the protagonist is black. Fiction requires a certain suspension of disbelief; science fiction and fantasy even more so. But for the reader of color, any reflection of self is too often absent altogether or marginalized; to imagine oneself as the protagonist, one must to extend the disbelief far beyond the page and recast him/herself as white.

The overwhelmingly monochromatic nature of the romance and erotic genres are even more telling. The expression of sexual fantasy and desire in novels is, for many, an extension of desire and sexual fantasy in real life: an escape in 300 or so pages. At its heart, romance – and erotica – is a reflection of current (and acceptable) sexual fantasy – even if your fantasy involves multiple partners, BSDM, dirty talk, public sex, or a myriad of other things (including the ever-growing trend of sex with vampires), you’re likely to find a book on the shelf. There are only three commandments in romance: thou shalt be beautiful, thou shalt have hot sex, and thou shalt Live Happily Ever After. The erotica rule is more pragmatic: If You Read it, They Will Come.

But if your fantasy is to have any of that with or as a partner of color, you’d either better have a good imagination , or be prepared to reread a Zane book. Or you could go online and order from a small, mainly online publishing house like Loose-Id or Ellora’s Cave, that have specific sections for ‘multicultural’ offerings, the majority of which are interracial. If you’re feeling determined, you could also sift through the mandingo-fantasy-laden ‘interracial’ topic at literotica.com.

Though I’m sure most romance authors would hate to hear it, mainstream romance and porn are extremely similar in the alienation of characters of color. When the fantasy ‘norm’ is white – no matter how chaste or kinky – everyone else is ‘other’. Just as in porn, openly affectionate black sex – never mind love – are almost completely absent. While as a black woman, pornography is relatively willing to showcase my fuckability, depictions of my ability to be loved, coveted, or desired as anything but a fetish object is sadly rare- on-screen or on the written page. As the author I questioned admitted, people that look like me just aren’t necessarily automatically and by default considered that way- if at all – even in ‘mainstream’ fantasy. So where does that leave readers – and writers – like me?

I hesitate to say that only brown authors can or should write stories containing brown people. Obviously, there are readers hungry for such material. But writing to demographic is a cop out; it absolves white authors of responsibility, pigeonholes authors of color,and avoids the ultimate issue of widening the sexual and desirable ideal to a diverse cast of characters. But apparently authors of color will have to lead the way, just as has been done in mainstream literature, film,and yes, porn. But it’s also a matter of artistic integrity: in the fantasy of erotica and romance, it’s precisely the romance and erotic aspects, that present a challenge. When you’re talking about people whose bodies were, if they were (some would say, are) legally their own, always in peril; whose sexuality was (is) turned against them, exploited and/or obliterated, an author is forced to navigate through some very un-erotic, unromantic, and frankly un-fantasy issues. It’s the creation of sexual fantasy despite this history that is the challenge: one that more authors should be interested in pulling off — if for no other reasons than the market is ripe for it, and to avoid a topic simply because it’s hard is, well, lazy.

And as any lover or artist will tell you, lazy isn’t sexy.

So what do you think readers. Does P.O.C. Pornography suffer from the same problems as P.O.C. erotica? What would you to change one or both?

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